This next verse in Proverbs 31, verse 11, is one of the most important ones to me: "The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil." I want to be someone that my husband can safely trust in. It would be devastating to me if my husband felt that he needed to check up on me constantly like a child out of control. There should be nothing between us and our husbands that would make one doubt the other. It was an honor when my husband said the words to me, "My heart does safely trust in you." That was almost as wonderful as hearing the Lord say, "Well done, thou good and faithful servant."
The word 'spoil': goods or property seized from a victim after a conflict, especially after military victory. In the Bible, many times after a battle was fought, the men would take the property(weapons, food, clothing, etc.), sometimes in order to survive. This verse is referring to how a wife will spend, or not spend, all of their money. She will be frugal, or thrifty, when it comes to their money, and not buy unnecessary things. Her husband trusts her with the checkbook, knowing that she will be wise in her spending, so that he does not need to acquire 'spoil' from elsewhere.
Hopefully, she has a heart to serve God, and will desire to give money to missions, help the needy, and have a giving heart.
HIS HEART TRUSTS IN HER:
They have confidence in each other; he should not fear betrayal or violating confidence he has revealed to her.
-She does not keep secrets from him.
-She does not talk negatively about him, or point out his faults to others.
-She does not tell their personal problems to others.
-She does not read his emails without his knowledge. There are things our husbands may know that may hurt us emotionally, for example, and they may want to keep things from us to protect us.
-She does not discuss their personal, private, intimate life with anyone.
-She will not embarrass him by criticizing him in the presence of his children or others. Ephesians 5:33b and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
-She will be patient to acquire things that she feels are important or needed, so that she doesn't put added financial pressure on him.
-She prays for her husband to be all he can be for God, and supports him in his decisions. Even if she thinks he is wrong, she should not argue that, but let God reveal it to him in HIS time. And don't be one to say, 'I told ya so'. That would just be our pride.
-She is submissive to him, as the Scripture tells us to be. Ephesians 5:22-24 "Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing."
-She takes care of his needs.
-She is, in general, an encouragement and a blessing to her husband.
-She makes the home a nice place for him to want to come home to. There is a difference between a house and a home. I have seen houses that are beautifully decorated and spotless, but the marriage relationship was a disaster. I would rather be happily married with an imperfect house, than for my house be immaculate and be absolutely miserable. Yes, we are to be keepers at home, and our home does make an impression on others. However, a good, Christ-centered marriage will produce a happy home, happy spouses, and happy children. If our children see us as real, God-loving people, they too will want to serve God with their hearts, and the home will naturally become a haven for the family. There should be a balance.
-She doesn't nag, or tell him what to do.
-She doesn't save the discipline of the children for him when he gets home.
-She listens to him.
-She helps build up his self-image. There will be enough people in the world being used of the devil that will try to tear him down, so the wife should be his BIGGEST FAN!!
GOD'S WORD WORKS!!!
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